Sunday, August 31, 2008

#2 date with #2

So I just got back from my second date. It went well. By the way his name is Drew but on the radio he goes by Danny Solomon and some people call him Rick which is an old radio name he had for a long time. He was actually named Paul Andrew but his parents always called him Drew so he has a few different names. Weird right? I guess it depends on who we are asking. Me, I have always been Sharon, Sharon Ann Robinson. Oh well! Anyways, we seem to be able to talk for hours about anything. He can even roll through my moments of straight forwardness and possible rudeness! At least that is how he acted - ha ha and swears I wasn't rude! Here are the details.

He asked me to take him to the Apple store since I am such a fan and apparently he could feel my effervescence through my IMs. Go figure! Not sure what he meant by that - LOL!! So we arrange to meet at North Park Mall at the Apple Store. We both arrive at the same time so we track it down on the map and off we go. I showed him the various areas. He asked questions about the differences in the various machines. We tried out an iMac and than a Mac Book Pro which occupied our time for at least an hour. During which we had discussions about the iPhone and it features. He mentioned he would need to take a class to figure out how to use everything on it and low and behold not 10 feet behind us was an iPhone demonstration/workshop taking place right in the middle of the store!! So we hung out watching and learning for at least another 15-20 minutes. It was really cool, I learned a few new things to prepare for my big purchase at the end of the year!

Next we went to dinner. We decided to take one car and I drove to his favorite BBQ place called Bone Daddy's. I don't really have much of an opinion on BBQ since it all pretty much tastes the same to me but the food was really good. The mac and cheese was awesome! The place is filled with TVs everywhere and it is your typical guy hangout with scantily clad gorgeous women working there. He prepped me about it before we got there but when we arrived the place was actually about 40% filled with families - wives and kids. We stayed for 5 hours eating drinking a few beers and talking.

I know you are all thinking, what? Sharon talk for 5 hours?? Holy crap! Ya I know - ha ha

There were a few lulls in conversation where he was kind of going on and on about some of his favorite movies. He would ask about one, I would not know it, he would then describe it to me and when I didn't show any interest he would proceed to tell me about all the great points in the movie and why it was so wonderful. I personally wasn't interested and the points he brought up didn't interest me either. Finally, on movie 3 or 4 I had to laugh and tell him, look I am sorry but I am just not getting it. I just don't watch the same type of movies you do or for the same reasons. Sorry, but this is not going anywhere (the convo) because I am not getting it.

He tries to reel me by asking me for my favorite movie - I tell him "When Dreams May Come" - he busts out laughing. Of course he doesn't have a clue what I am talking about which was a point I wanted to make, we don't watch the same type of movies. I then tell him, I just watch movies that interest me emotionally whether it is through laughter or tears, I am not always interested in the plot or the actors or the acting so I don't have to analyze every nuance - he again busts out laughing. I ask why and he says wow you just chopped off my head! LOL I then have to explain that was not my intention but I was merely trying to explain the differences in our tastes and opinions. It was very funny!

All in all we talked about several different topics. He makes me laugh and he seems to be able to take my bluntness. I took him back to his car at the parking lot and we proceeded to talk more for another hour or so. I even let him kiss me a couple of times which I didn't think I would do. I will admit I kind of felt put on the spot but I gave in figuring well it is better to know if he is a horrible kisser now than later since he obviously wanted to kiss me. The kissing was not so bad even though I was stiff as a board ready to bolt other than I was sitting in my car so where was I going to go!! LOL Boy I sound juvenile! Anyways we talked a bunch more about all kinds of stuff, meditation, spirits, death, family, friends, etc. It was a good end.

So, now - what am I thinking about him and analyzing in my head.

1. I drove to the second place because his car is messy - hmmm, well we are on a date shouldn't he have driven or been prepared. I figured well at least tonight I won't feel bad about letting him pick up the check! (It was a huge struggle for me not to offer to pay half last week)
2. Job - still not sure how steady his job is, seems like he has worked at every radio station in town but I also should chalk it up to the industry.
3. This is the part I am embarrassed to mention but I am going to anyways because it is going through my head. He is a horrible dresser. He is a baggy, shapeless, faded, torn up jeans and t-shirt guy. In a joke he mentioned something about only wearing t-shirts and only owning a couple shirts with collars. Okay everyone knows that I am pretty laid back person but I still like to go out and look nice once in a while. Not to mention at this point in my life I kind would like to be wined and dined a bit. Just for fun, not because it is something I would have to do day in and day out but damn it, it's my turn isn't it!! LOL Why do I alway end up with the ones that have no sense of style or care if they looked like someone loaned their jeans to them which is why they are so torn up and don't fit right? I know it is not important but it is part of the initial attraction right?

Well, it's late and that's all I have the energy to write. I will try and stay diligent and provide more details. I am sure I won't be as colorful or entertaining as my predecessor but hopefully you guys will find some entertainment in reading about my awkward dating blunders!

1 comment:

A Girl In The World said...

Again... I am so glad you are getting out there!! That whole first kiss nervousness never goes... just FYI... It's like you both just sit there and KNOW its that time and the awkwardness is just there... :) But for me it was like a high... like what some people get from roller coasters or bungy jumping. :)

Well, I think the fact that you have found someone who enjoys bantering with you and doesn't get intimidated by your straight forward attitude is great.

Now as for the other things you mentioned. The job thing - that industry is not a high paying industry or a steady industry unless you become someone big so that is expected. The messy car thing... how messy was it? Did you see it? Was it just stuff thrown around messy? Or like old food in the backseat messy? Because there is a difference. Of course you would like to think he would be prepared. Maybe he didn't think that the two of you would be going somewhere after. Either way... its a car.. hell, if I was a guy I would probably have my car all clean for 1st and 2nd dates only to surprise them into seeing how I never clean it later on down the road! So, what's worse?

Now, the dressing thing... that is a different story. That is the way someone is. That is not something you are going to see change. Actually since it is only the first couple of times you have gotten together, you have probably seen his "nice" clothes. So it's a matter of what you are willing to sacrifice.

So here is my suggestion... aim higher than you think is possible on match (or anywhere). You may have to deal with some rejection, however, you may be surprised to find that not everyone is that way. If you want someone who is not a sloppy dresser or someone who can take you out every now and then, you need to look at a different group. Just a thought :)