So I just got back from my second date. It went well. By the way his name is Drew but on the radio he goes by Danny Solomon and some people call him Rick which is an old radio name he had for a long time. He was actually named Paul Andrew but his parents always called him Drew so he has a few different names. Weird right? I guess it depends on who we are asking. Me, I have always been Sharon, Sharon Ann Robinson. Oh well! Anyways, we seem to be able to talk for hours about anything. He can even roll through my moments of straight forwardness and possible rudeness! At least that is how he acted - ha ha and swears I wasn't rude! Here are the details.
He asked me to take him to the Apple store since I am such a fan and apparently he could feel my effervescence through my IMs. Go figure! Not sure what he meant by that - LOL!! So we arrange to meet at North Park Mall at the Apple Store. We both arrive at the same time so we track it down on the map and off we go. I showed him the various areas. He asked questions about the differences in the various machines. We tried out an iMac and than a Mac Book Pro which occupied our time for at least an hour. During which we had discussions about the iPhone and it features. He mentioned he would need to take a class to figure out how to use everything on it and low and behold not 10 feet behind us was an iPhone demonstration/workshop taking place right in the middle of the store!! So we hung out watching and learning for at least another 15-20 minutes. It was really cool, I learned a few new things to prepare for my big purchase at the end of the year!
Next we went to dinner. We decided to take one car and I drove to his favorite BBQ place called Bone Daddy's. I don't really have much of an opinion on BBQ since it all pretty much tastes the same to me but the food was really good. The mac and cheese was awesome! The place is filled with TVs everywhere and it is your typical guy hangout with scantily clad gorgeous women working there. He prepped me about it before we got there but when we arrived the place was actually about 40% filled with families - wives and kids. We stayed for 5 hours eating drinking a few beers and talking.
I know you are all thinking, what? Sharon talk for 5 hours?? Holy crap! Ya I know - ha ha
There were a few lulls in conversation where he was kind of going on and on about some of his favorite movies. He would ask about one, I would not know it, he would then describe it to me and when I didn't show any interest he would proceed to tell me about all the great points in the movie and why it was so wonderful. I personally wasn't interested and the points he brought up didn't interest me either. Finally, on movie 3 or 4 I had to laugh and tell him, look I am sorry but I am just not getting it. I just don't watch the same type of movies you do or for the same reasons. Sorry, but this is not going anywhere (the convo) because I am not getting it.
He tries to reel me by asking me for my favorite movie - I tell him "When Dreams May Come" - he busts out laughing. Of course he doesn't have a clue what I am talking about which was a point I wanted to make, we don't watch the same type of movies. I then tell him, I just watch movies that interest me emotionally whether it is through laughter or tears, I am not always interested in the plot or the actors or the acting so I don't have to analyze every nuance - he again busts out laughing. I ask why and he says wow you just chopped off my head! LOL I then have to explain that was not my intention but I was merely trying to explain the differences in our tastes and opinions. It was very funny!
All in all we talked about several different topics. He makes me laugh and he seems to be able to take my bluntness. I took him back to his car at the parking lot and we proceeded to talk more for another hour or so. I even let him kiss me a couple of times which I didn't think I would do. I will admit I kind of felt put on the spot but I gave in figuring well it is better to know if he is a horrible kisser now than later since he obviously wanted to kiss me. The kissing was not so bad even though I was stiff as a board ready to bolt other than I was sitting in my car so where was I going to go!! LOL Boy I sound juvenile! Anyways we talked a bunch more about all kinds of stuff, meditation, spirits, death, family, friends, etc. It was a good end.
So, now - what am I thinking about him and analyzing in my head.
1. I drove to the second place because his car is messy - hmmm, well we are on a date shouldn't he have driven or been prepared. I figured well at least tonight I won't feel bad about letting him pick up the check! (It was a huge struggle for me not to offer to pay half last week)
2. Job - still not sure how steady his job is, seems like he has worked at every radio station in town but I also should chalk it up to the industry.
3. This is the part I am embarrassed to mention but I am going to anyways because it is going through my head. He is a horrible dresser. He is a baggy, shapeless, faded, torn up jeans and t-shirt guy. In a joke he mentioned something about only wearing t-shirts and only owning a couple shirts with collars. Okay everyone knows that I am pretty laid back person but I still like to go out and look nice once in a while. Not to mention at this point in my life I kind would like to be wined and dined a bit. Just for fun, not because it is something I would have to do day in and day out but damn it, it's my turn isn't it!! LOL Why do I alway end up with the ones that have no sense of style or care if they looked like someone loaned their jeans to them which is why they are so torn up and don't fit right? I know it is not important but it is part of the initial attraction right?
Well, it's late and that's all I have the energy to write. I will try and stay diligent and provide more details. I am sure I won't be as colorful or entertaining as my predecessor but hopefully you guys will find some entertainment in reading about my awkward dating blunders!
Sunday, August 31, 2008
Trying new things
So this year has been somewhat uneventful and eventful at the same time. What does that mean? Well, since I moved to Texas I have made it a point to go on at least one vacation during the Spring or Summer. I love the beach so it is usually involves someplace with a beach. This year I couldn't do that since I set my sights on buying a house finally. So that meant do vacation, no money, no time.
I started my house hunt in March hoping to find something by the end of the school year. My thought was if I could get into something before the end of the school year, I might still have time to do a small vacation to the beach. That didn't work out. It took a lot longer to find a house than I thought it would. I had to change my search a few times to find the right place. My first pick was Coppell, TX which was just a couple of blocks from my apartment and the schools are very good. Nothing worked out. After bidding on 3 homes it was clear that the market there was too competitive.
I moved my search to Carrollton, TX, still very close but a much bigger city with varying school districts. Carrollton is spread out enough that you will either end up in Lewisville Independent School District, Dallas Independent School District or the Carrollton-Farmer's Branch Independent School District. I know it sounds really silly considering Carrollton has its own school district. These distinctions also meant the quality of homes was all over the board. But I found something I really liked and I was excited. I submitted an offer May 19th and was accepted. Then came the catch, he couldn't close until July 29th so there was a lot of back and forth negotiations to work out. We came to agreements and I actually ended getting a great deal on the house in the end. But it also meant that the entire summer was put on hold due to the house contract. No excess spending or the underwriters for the loan could reject it. So I was stuck.
I am now in the house with a broken foot. Stupid mishap while moving. I am trying to get the painting done with the help of some friends from work. It has been a slow process. I am also on the hunt for new furniture since I didn't have much at the apartment. So there goes the money!! LOL But I am happy and excited to buy things that I really like and reflect my taste.
August 11th two of my very good friends (you know who you are) talked me into creating a real match.com profile. To be silly I created what I thought was an absolutely hilarious profile in January but they were convinced that my pure smart ass attitude would not be very inviting. So one evening the girls gathered to critique it and rewrite it. It was quite funny. Now it is a longer story of who I am without my in your face this is who I am attitude! Next step, I had to actually join and pay for the service otherwise I couldn't read messages that people sent me. I waited a few weeks because it was a tough decision. I swore i would never do it. It was just too weird to me to put myself out there like that but I finally relented and went for it.
What a huge step for me. I am a pretty open person and tell most everyone how it is and exactly what I think. But that is in person which I am comfortable with doing. I don't fully embrace putting myself out there for viewing and scrutiny, it is not the most fun experience. The mixture of curiosity, anticipation and fear don't mix very well. It is very confusing and hard to reign in and stay under control.
So far I have emailed with 3 guys. One in California which only lasted a day. Then 2 more came along that were interesting and funny to banter with via email. I met the first one Tim right away. He was super nice and we had many similar interests and tons to talk about. I taught him to play darts which was a little slow. By the end I knew it was a not a striking connection. He politely emailed his conclusion and we agreed that we would be friends so we are still emailing. Mostly short notes here and there and sharing our love of the beach and dolphins.
Number 2 is a very straightforward and funny character as well. He was very eager to meet after some IM sessions but my schedule just wasn't meshing. Seems like I am in hot demand the last couple weeks and my weekends and some week nights are full! I am loving the activity. So after a couple discussions it became quite clear that I am socially inept at dating! Once I realized it, I had to evaluate the last time I dated unknown guys. The answer 1991! LOL Sure I have had boyfriends and even a husband since 1991 but I always seem to "date" guys that I am already friends with such as my ex husband or my most recent boyfriend who was my best friends brother. We knew each other since we were 13. This is obviously a pattern I have been in since I was very young. My first real boyfriend that I had all my FIRSTS with was a different best friends brother and that started in the 6th grade! Bascially, I don't know how to meet guys and date without having formed a friendship. What does that mean, it explains why I date so many people through friends and work, I don't know any other way. But I am learning.
I am corresponding with number 2 and we have set up another time to get together. What does this mean? It means Sharon is learning to date. To meet people she doesn't know through friends or work. Forging a new way of thinking and hopefully learning to accept requests for dates and feeling comfortable putting myself out there and feeling a little vulnerable. Time will tell!
I started my house hunt in March hoping to find something by the end of the school year. My thought was if I could get into something before the end of the school year, I might still have time to do a small vacation to the beach. That didn't work out. It took a lot longer to find a house than I thought it would. I had to change my search a few times to find the right place. My first pick was Coppell, TX which was just a couple of blocks from my apartment and the schools are very good. Nothing worked out. After bidding on 3 homes it was clear that the market there was too competitive.
I moved my search to Carrollton, TX, still very close but a much bigger city with varying school districts. Carrollton is spread out enough that you will either end up in Lewisville Independent School District, Dallas Independent School District or the Carrollton-Farmer's Branch Independent School District. I know it sounds really silly considering Carrollton has its own school district. These distinctions also meant the quality of homes was all over the board. But I found something I really liked and I was excited. I submitted an offer May 19th and was accepted. Then came the catch, he couldn't close until July 29th so there was a lot of back and forth negotiations to work out. We came to agreements and I actually ended getting a great deal on the house in the end. But it also meant that the entire summer was put on hold due to the house contract. No excess spending or the underwriters for the loan could reject it. So I was stuck.
I am now in the house with a broken foot. Stupid mishap while moving. I am trying to get the painting done with the help of some friends from work. It has been a slow process. I am also on the hunt for new furniture since I didn't have much at the apartment. So there goes the money!! LOL But I am happy and excited to buy things that I really like and reflect my taste.
August 11th two of my very good friends (you know who you are) talked me into creating a real match.com profile. To be silly I created what I thought was an absolutely hilarious profile in January but they were convinced that my pure smart ass attitude would not be very inviting. So one evening the girls gathered to critique it and rewrite it. It was quite funny. Now it is a longer story of who I am without my in your face this is who I am attitude! Next step, I had to actually join and pay for the service otherwise I couldn't read messages that people sent me. I waited a few weeks because it was a tough decision. I swore i would never do it. It was just too weird to me to put myself out there like that but I finally relented and went for it.
What a huge step for me. I am a pretty open person and tell most everyone how it is and exactly what I think. But that is in person which I am comfortable with doing. I don't fully embrace putting myself out there for viewing and scrutiny, it is not the most fun experience. The mixture of curiosity, anticipation and fear don't mix very well. It is very confusing and hard to reign in and stay under control.
So far I have emailed with 3 guys. One in California which only lasted a day. Then 2 more came along that were interesting and funny to banter with via email. I met the first one Tim right away. He was super nice and we had many similar interests and tons to talk about. I taught him to play darts which was a little slow. By the end I knew it was a not a striking connection. He politely emailed his conclusion and we agreed that we would be friends so we are still emailing. Mostly short notes here and there and sharing our love of the beach and dolphins.
Number 2 is a very straightforward and funny character as well. He was very eager to meet after some IM sessions but my schedule just wasn't meshing. Seems like I am in hot demand the last couple weeks and my weekends and some week nights are full! I am loving the activity. So after a couple discussions it became quite clear that I am socially inept at dating! Once I realized it, I had to evaluate the last time I dated unknown guys. The answer 1991! LOL Sure I have had boyfriends and even a husband since 1991 but I always seem to "date" guys that I am already friends with such as my ex husband or my most recent boyfriend who was my best friends brother. We knew each other since we were 13. This is obviously a pattern I have been in since I was very young. My first real boyfriend that I had all my FIRSTS with was a different best friends brother and that started in the 6th grade! Bascially, I don't know how to meet guys and date without having formed a friendship. What does that mean, it explains why I date so many people through friends and work, I don't know any other way. But I am learning.
I am corresponding with number 2 and we have set up another time to get together. What does this mean? It means Sharon is learning to date. To meet people she doesn't know through friends or work. Forging a new way of thinking and hopefully learning to accept requests for dates and feeling comfortable putting myself out there and feeling a little vulnerable. Time will tell!
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